What is the single most revealing thing about any person?
“If you want to know what’s a man really like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals”.- Sirius Black, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire.
What they’re most proud of.
Questions reveal what they are focusing their attention on, and also what their blind spots are.
“Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.”-Abraham Lincoln
How they treat receptionists, waiters, call-center employees and anyone in a service profession. It speaks volumes about their character and their ability to deal with problems in a rational way.
Their phone’s lockscreen wallpaper
When you get to see someone’s lockscreen, you’re seeing something this person wants to be reminded of everyday. Something that they would like to look at even before unlocking their phone. It is like a window to their soul.
Their wallpaper may be of their pet, selfie, parents, children, partner, current car/dream car, favorite actor/singer/sportsperson, favorite bible verse, a beautiful scenery or even the default wallpaper.
As a die hard cricket fan, my lockscreen has a picture of ABde Villiers (South African cricketer) at a press conference.
I had a teacher who said it best.
You don’t know who someone is until you see them under pressure.
It is when we are under pressure that our true colors come out, when the ego’s assis put to the fire and we become the gateway between our survival self and doing what is humane and expressing integrity.
If you think about it, it is really easy to be a nice person when there is no pressure in your life. It is easy to give money to those in need when you have it in your wallet. It is easy to smile when you’re already laughing. It is easy to dance when you are in love with someone. You don’t mind donating money or doing extra favors when you have the time. Even arguing is ok when you are feeling fine otherwise.
But, put some pressure on the same person and you may be face to face with a demon.
It happens to all of us. And it’s humbling to see where we really are in relation to life.